We sat across the table from each other, hearts racing and butterflies in our stomach, still getting to know one another. We talked about small things over breakfast that morning at a restaurant we frequented after church. We were slowly learning each other’s likes, ambitions, hopes, and fears.
This was my first dating/courtship relationship since becoming a believer just about a year prior. I remember feeling giddy and excited every time we would meet.
I often thought, “could he be the ONE?”
I wish I could have held onto just that one emotion. But with that excitement came along another feeling-one I did not want to face and that was FEAR.
This relationship would be different than the ones from my past. This relationship would have a different foundation.
Our foundation would be based on Christ!
I remember thinking “if I don’t want to mess this up, I really need to dive into the Word to see what God says about marriage and courtship and basically everything!”
Although I was already reading the bible and most definitely intrigued by all the newness of the Word, now I was also on a mission to find out more about Jesus to get to know more about this man I was falling for.
One way he showed me he loved me was to point me to Jesus.The man I dated and later married, sparked my desire to know more about Jesus to get to know more about the man he was. Click To Tweet
Thankfully my husband moved slowly, which can sometimes cause for tension nowadays, but back then it meant that most of our initial dates were at coffee shops, movies, or outings with his friends.
I can still recall early on asking Paul to a “Christmas” work party, which at that time involved more of a reason to party than to celebrate Chirst, and he said NO!
I got the hint that if we weren’t doing something fruitful, it wasn’t going to happen.
Another way he showed me he loved me was by protecting our time together.
If this was the man I was going to end up with, shouldn’t things go smoothly and we call it a day? That was my fairy tale version of this story. However, I soon realized that some very necessary things needed to happen before we could move forward.
Before we could move forward in our relationship I had to let him man into my past. And that terrified me…
I was still processing all the love my Heavenly Father had for me. Truly embracing His limitless grace, mercies and healing and what that meant to me personally. Click here to read more about my salvation story https://www.lovehasdone.com/by-gods-grace/
Now, I would not only be trusting the Lord with all my broken pieces but this man as well…
Another way he showed me he loved me was by being patient with me.
Christ gently pursues our hearts. Never leaving us but patiently waiting for us to turn to him.
The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:9
Unbeknownst to my husband and I, but because of the trauma of my past, we were going to have some ups and downs along the way. At different times in our marriage, I would notice signs that maybe there was more healing that needed to be done and that required me to do some digging into my past. Paul once again had to be patient and trust the journey Jesus and I were on.
About two years ago I remember realizing that Jesus had indeed tended to those places in my heart that needed his healing touch. It was like this huge weight was lifted from me and the heaviness and expectations I had placed on my husband to make things right, to be a certain way, were no longer there.
I remember Paul looking at me and saying “maybe I was meant to help carry the weight for you.”
My husband showed me he loved me by carrying some of my burdens.
God too wants to carry our burdens. He doesn’t expect us to get ourselves together or wait for a perfect time to come to Him. He wants us and loves us just the way we are.I know this because I came to HIM broken and HE made me whole Click To Tweet
“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
I pray as you read this you are encouraged. Reminded that you are loved. And if you’d like to know more about the Father’s love for you, please reach out, I would love to talk to you.
How do I say I love you? By sharing with you a love that has changed my life forever.
Click here to read how I met my husband Family of 5.